Are you the type of person that is hesitant to ask others for help? Do you believe it might make you look vulnerable, weak or incompetent or perhaps you would feel disappointed if you were refused the help you were seeking or what if you do get the help you’re seeking, do you now feel indebted to that person? Well listen in and learn to break this cycle of BS and breakthrough to the next level!
We all know that there is strength in numbers. We’ve also all probably experienced this first-hand at some point in our lives. Yet, most of us refuse to ask anyone for help. We would instead tackle the challenging situation on our own or push away any support offered because we think asking someone for help might make us look vulnerable or weak, or incompetent. Or perhaps we fear being disappointed if that person said “no”.
In this episode, we’re learning to increase the flow of help from others in our life – friends, people you draw inspiration from, and family! The beauty of this is that it doesn’t matter if people say ‘no’ because simply asking the question from a place of positivity will start a chain reaction that can have positive results far beyond what you had originally expected!
Points to note:
● There may be times when you’re nervous about doing something you really want to do. It could be because of the fear of disappointment, vulnerability, rejection, or the like – these are confidence suckers and derail you from your actual path.
● People who ask for help are not incompetent. Incompetent people rarely ask for help because they don’t think they need it.
● If you refuse to ask for help from all of the brilliant people around you, you might remain stuck in the paralyzing zone you need to get out of by people who want to help you.
● Learn to help others unconditionally, expect nothing in return, and be grateful when you get something back.
● The natural human instinct is to protect, not to prey on people. That also implies that when you ask for help, most people really want to help you. It is just that sometimes, they’re not in a position to do that – it could be because of their personal situations or engagements.
Resources Mentioned:
● Everyday is Saturday Podcast by Sam Crowley
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